Uncle Chuckie, why is it that some guys seem to run away from problems. They tend to get quite or just leave, and you don’t hear from them for a while. Why is that?
Well, you see with a lot guys, they want to help and they can’t. Some just don’t know how, and they feel that rather than to be embarrassed, they just leave, using the senseless adages; a man ain’t supposed to…men don’t…and so on.
You see, a woman’s main characteristic is to nurture. A lot of men do not know how to nurture. A man’s main characteristic is to fix things. If he can’t fix the problem it hurts him, especially when it comes to a Loved one; wife, child, lady friend, etc., so rather than let someone see him with a sad look on his face (I‘m not supposed to let anyone see me like this, I’m a man), or a tear about to fall (men aren’t supposed to cry), or believing he is about to hear, ‘You can’t do nothing’ or ‘What good are you?’ or anything that is going to belittle him, whether it is going to be said or not. “Just in case something is about to be said that is going to take my manhood away, let me get out of here.” is what a lot of guys think or feel.
It hurts a man deeply when he can’t fix what is wrong with a Loved one. Some men know how to nurture and some men try their best to fix what is wrong, and some just feel so bad that if they just leave it might go away, and when it gets better they’ll come back.
It’s not that they don’t care. A lot of times it’s that they do care, they just don’t know how to fix it. Not only do women need to know this, so do a lot of men, because they don’t realize themselves why they really do this. We both, men and women, need to be more understanding of each other and willing to work together to make things better.
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