Liking Yourself

Uncle Chuckie, why isn't anything going right for me? Why do I keep ending up doing the wrong thing? Why do I always end up with the wrong guys that hurt me? Why is GOD still punishing me?

Why don't you like me?

What do you mean, why don't I like you? I Love you Uncle Chuckie.

I did not say Love, I said like. The Father has forgiven you for all the things you have done as soon as you asked Him to. You haven't forgiven yourself. You don't like what you see in the mirror. You don't like the pictures you take because you are in them. You would rather take a shower than to take a bath, because if you take a bath you can see your whole unclothed body and despise yourself even more.

That's what I meant when I said that you don't like me. How can you like me or anyone if you don't like yourself? People say, "I Love my family, my mother, my...". What's Love got to do with it? You can Love forever, however, like is the operative word. If you don't Love you, you cannot Love anything. It is the same with like. Stop beating yourself up. It will never end until you stop beating yourself down and start liking you. If you don't like you, you will find ways, unconsciously, to continue to hurt you. When you hurt you, you hurt the ones you Love. Stop it, and stop it now! It will never come together until you start liking you, never. And it is not the truth. The truth is what you make it.
The first thing to do is quit with the negativity, "It's bittersweet because, blah, blah, blah." Do good things and let what happens happen. If you continue to use negativity, you might as well stop doing good things. Good things are not negative, so don't make it out to be because it will no longer be good. Look in the mirror and see what others see. Stop seeing what you want to see, your punishment. Stop punishing yourself for nothing, let it all go. Nobody always make the best decisions. Look at what we see in you. You might think it's a charade, it's not. What's a charade is what you see in the mirror every morning. It is not you, it is what you punish yourself to be. Stop that! Live! Live now! You say that if you change your environment that you might feel better and be able to live. Remember, where ever you go, you are there. So, if you are not going to change how you feel about you, stay where you are and continue to punish yourself from there. Don't go somewhere else so you can continue to punish you from a different place. We know the real you. You find the real you and live the real you. The world will punish us enough, we do not need to give it any help.

Some who don't like themselves do the opposite of what you are doing. Since they don't like themselves, unconsciously, they find a way to make others not like them also. They become too critical of things, they try to make others feel guilty about things, they complain about almost everything and they wait for others to, not only feel bad about what they did or did not do, they unconsciously want them to not like them for complaining and being critical all the time.

Once you start liking you everything will start falling into place. Not only do I Love you, I like you. Positivity needs to take over your life. Once you let your mind overrule your Heart, everything fell apart. The mind must bow to the Heart. They must work together, with the Heart slightly ahead of the mind. The Father speaks to you through your Heart, listen and obey. You are Beautiful. Find that Beauty and bask in it. You have a Beautiful Heart, don't hide it behind your mind. Let it glow the way we see it now. If you let the flame die, then where would we all be? We need, not only your Love, we need you to like you the way we we do. Positivity is the way to go. Negativity sees a tree that fell onto another tree. Positivity sees a tree catching a falling tree to keep it from hitting the ground.

Like you, I do.

Tears

Uncle Chuckie, will my tears ever stop?

I Truly understand your question, and how you are feeling. I have been asked similar questions about tears; what are tears, why are there times when I need to cry and can’t, and why do we have tears?

Tears are an emotional stress reliever. We all have them, and we must use them one way or another. If they are suppressed, they will come out, when you least expect it. If they are overly used, it is difficult to stop them. Tears are there when we hurt, and when we hurt someone. Tears are there when we are sad, and when we make someone sad. Tears are there when we are happy, and when we make someone happy. Tears are a sign of Love, a sign of feelings.

Personally, I started suppressing my tears when I was eight or nine years old. I stopped because I was tired of crying. I forced them out to make certain situations stop. As I got older, I did not release my tears because I felt I had to be there for others. When my family started to return Home, starting with my Uncle Andrew, my Aunt Melzina, my brother Tim, etc., I notice how my family was reacting and I felt I had to be there for them. I guess my reasoning was like that old Head & Shoulders ad; ‘No More Tears’. The years passed and my mind told me that something wasn’t right. My Heart felt very, very heavy. What I went through as a child kept emerging. I needed to release and didn’t know how. I could not function well. I needed to release. One day, I was led over to my mother’s. While I was there, I also needed to talk to my baby sister, so I called her. While my sister was on the phone and my mother next to me, I started to talk about my past and why I stopped crying. The torrential rains started pouring from my eyes. It was like a thunderstorm. It was decades of tears that needed to be released. I felt a lot better. Then they went on lockdown again. I guess it went from being a habit to a lifestyle. When I came to Georgia, I needed to release again. It took awhile, then they came. I became extra emotional and a little more sensitive than usual. I have learned to mellow now. I’m still me, and a lot of stress is gone. I cannot be too emotional over things I have no control over.

If I had realized then what I do now, would I have suppressed my tears? Maybe during certain situations and let them flow during others. Tears can purify like Holy Water. Release them when it’s time. It shows Love and feelings. It shows how much you care. Don’t try to force them, just let them flow naturally. Don’t try to suppress them, we need that release. That’s why The Father gave us tears.

Thank You Father for the tears you have given us!!